So, a while back (apparently when I was 22), I tried online dating. And I learned a lot from the experience. One of the main lessons: online dating is best suited for those individuals who are ready to meet someone and settle down within the next 6-12 months. Let's be honest here, the internet speeds things up, including your romantic life! That is, if you find someone that way ;) All in all, I don't think it's going to be a door that I will be opening again until I'm done with school, settled into a career-ish job, and feel that I've exhausted the "options" of whatever city I settle in.
But anyways, while I was doing the online dating thing, I wrote a lot of emails. Here are some excerpts from a few of them:
"[One] viewpoint that I have that's somewhat different than most women is how [I would like to be] viewed as a wife. It may sound weird, but I'm going to try to explain it decently...lol. I guess I want to be somewhat of a "reward" for my future husband. Like others look at him and know that he is blessed because of the person that I am. I want to be a blessing to him in every aspect of our relationship and I want to be successful/intelligent/etc. so that he is seen as a better man. I don't know, I guess the analogy I'm going for is this: just as the Church (the bride) is to glorify Jesus (the bridegroom) through actions/obedience/etc., I want to glorify my future husband...but obviously on a smaller scale. I hope this is making sense. And by doing this, it would also glorify God and He can use me to help reach others through my husband. Like, for instance, showing His grace and mercy through his testimony by rewarding my husband despite some of the choices he [may have] made in the past."
"I guess another viewpoint I have on marriage is that it should be somewhat modeled after the original marriage God intended with Adam and Eve. God made the man and gave him a job (naming the animals) but He saw that Adam needed a helper, so He made Eve. The wife is to be the husband's helper. Not on a less than equal sense, but rather, the man can't do it by himself (or he can, but it just wouldn't be as good/beneficial without the woman). So, wives should offer to help their husbands and husbands are to ask for help from their wives. I always think it's kind of annoying when guys think they can always do things by themselves, whether it's a pride thing or just them showing off, usually the job can be easier/less painful/etc. if he seeks help. Like with moving furniture. Women are a lot less fragile than most men seem to think. Half the time, I can do random hard labor/lifting better than some of the guys I know, which I think is hilarious! Silly city boys...(and, omg, I can kill spiders all by my lonesome! lol)"
"I would love to just become best friends with a guy (whoever God intends) and then just naturally transition into a dating relationship and then marriage. I want us to just like spending time together and then realize that it's something we can do for the rest of our lives, knowing that God can use us better together rather than single. Just really natural and not forced. That might be somewhat idealistic of me, but I'm okay with waiting for a relationship like that (I've waited 22 years, right? lol). And if it never happens I guess that's fine too. God knows me better than I do. A quote that I heard once that I really liked is this: "Don't worry about finding that 'special someone.' God knows a lot of people." I think it's really funny, but entirely true. He does know a lot of people!! All of them! I think that would make Him the ultimate matchmaker! lol."
Just some basic thoughts I had about relationships a couple years ago that still pretty much hold true (although, if I were to rewrite them, I might try to be a bit more eloquent).
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